Nations of Women

The line between the past and the future!


Apr 10, 2024By Nations of Women

Hello my dear friend!

Wow, it is another new week and its my greatest joy to come your way with our weekly wisdom.

This week our focus is on the line between the past and the future!

Dont let your past stop you in the present, and wipe out your future. It is a time to learn from, not a place to dwell.

Certain incidents in our lives tend to hold us back, at times it even discourages us from living life and we can almost feel the taste of pain in our mouths. It can be hard, no doubt about it.

The question then becomes "what can you do"? Research tells us that dweling on your pain is not healthy for ayone, its not healthy for your body, not healthy for your mind and simply not healthy for anything or anyone, you suffer and everyone suffers too around you.

The good news today is the fact that you still have a future, and a life to live! Whether it is pain from losing a job, a crushing marriage or relationship, losing a child, or losing a close family member or friend, always remember you have to learn from the experience, buckle up and move on.

I would like to take amoment to share with you my own personal story... Over a decade ago, someone attempted to take my life and my baby in broad daylight! It traumatised me to no end and would have been so easy for my family and I to dwell in the pain of the situation however we chose to rejoice and give thanks for the fact that we were still alive and therefore we could heal from the trauma and the pain.

You see, the truth is this, It is not always so easy to make such choices, although I hold a qualification in Psychology and also as a qualified counsellor, I absolutely knew what would be best for me personally and emotionally but yet it took me a lot of years to truly let that pain go, forgave this person and found my freedom. Why do i share you may ask, well because, often you hear people share their stories and there is a temptation to compare ourselves, our situation and if not careful we can dig an even deeper hole of despair for ourselves.

So I want you to be encouraged that even if you know whats best for you, you may not always feel like drawing a sand in the line there and then, but there is hope!

Practical Application :​
Find that safe place, get help, get a counsellor or at least someone you trust to share your feelings and thoughts, but no matter what happens, the one thing you MUST NEVER DO is to suppress, hide, pretend, lie, or dismiss how you feel - be true to yourself!

Question : Why hold on to the very thing that keeps you bound, starved of hope, leaves you in despair takes you away from Love and so much more that your future holds?

Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

I am always delighted to hear how you too have overcome your challenges, sharing these with me and the team really encourages us too, so don't hold back in hitting that reply button and share with us.

Sending you my love and blessings for your week.

Dr Tina Allton & the NOW Team